I told Warren that my most successful relationships have been with men who are far less obsessive than I am

I told Warren that my most successful relationships have been with men who are far less obsessive than I am

Because it wasn’t practical to execute a thirty-year longitudinal study, he and Warren decided to measure existing relationships, surveying people who were already married. The idea was to look for patterns that produce satisfaction in marriages, then try to reproduce them in the matching of singles.

Buckwalter’s studies soon yielded data that confirmed one of Warren’s longtime observations: namely, that the members of a happy couple are far more similar to each other than are the members of an unhappy couplepatibility, in other words, rests on shared traits. “I can’t tell you how delighted I was,” Warren said, “when the factor-analytic studies started bringing back the same stuff I’d seen for years.”

But could this be true across the board? Warren assured me that’s not a similarity their system matches for. Continue reading “I told Warren that my most successful relationships have been with men who are far less obsessive than I am”