5. Nobody is the best version of themselves when they date

5. Nobody is the best version of themselves when they date

By inviting users to explore a world of infinite choice without any consequences, is it any wonder that it’s so difficult to find someone who is interested in the hard work of an actual relationship? Anyone you meet on a free app has been trained to believe that there could always be someone better just a click away.

The moment they decide that you are not perfect enough for them, their interest in you fades and they have clicked on to the next person.

Picture sitting down for a drink or dinner for the first time with someone you met on an online dating site.

The “get to know you” questions that are meant to provide a glimpse of whether you’ll be a fit, and the pressure of knowing that if you say the wrong thing it will derail everything.

By the same logic, the same holds true for everyone you date. Yet none of us seems to stop us from going out on these awkward, not-fun, misery-inducing dates in an attempt to find a compatible partner.

The best version of you is usually found when you’re a) not feeling stressed or worried about being judged, and b) doing something you actually enjoy.

6. Fakes and phonies

Considering that most fake profiles are created by scammers and criminals seeking to steal from the people they meet, that’s an astoundingly high percentage.

Would you even leave your front door if you knew that 10% of the people you’d be likely to meet was looking to steal from you?

OK, but what do we do about it?

After all, we know that a growing number of people are finding success when it comes to searching for a partner online. Online dating might be broken, but that doesn’t mean you still can’t find the person you’re looking for. You just need to use a different approach. Continue reading “5. Nobody is the best version of themselves when they date”